Who tolerates your complaining, mood swings, crying sessions, explosive outbursts, and emotional baggage? Your best friend! She is the only one who will support you when everyone has turned their back to you, or if you feel like repeating the same old stories over and over again. Your best-friend is someone who trusts and cares for you unconditionally. Close relationships such as this, are bound to have their ups and downs, so if you’ve had a spat with your friend, that’s normal. What’s a girl to do if the spat was more like a blow up?
Consider the following tips to sort things out with your best friend:
1. Talk: Irrespective of who did what to whom, do not wait for her to take the first step. Friendships end because no one cared enough to make the first move towards resolution. If she really means that much to you, fix it! If you are at fault, explain your actions without providing justifications. Do not worry about judgment, she’s your best friend after all.
2. Active Listening: While you are prattling on endlessly about your pain and suffering, don’t forget that your best friend has been through the same. Give her an opportunity to speak, at which time your eyes and body language should be focused on her. Active listening is an essential skill to have in all relationships.
3. Apologize: Our egos prevent us from taking responsibility for our actions. Even if you are not the guilty party, it does not hurt to say sorry, especially to your best friend. A heartfelt, genuine apology is a great ice breaker from the anger and resentment that builds up in a fight.
4. Write your feelings down on paper: If you have difficulty expressing your emotions and feelings, jot them down on a piece of paper. You may not be the guilty party, but a letter is a sweet gesture which will always be welcomed by your best friend. This letter will be a keepsake of your friendship,and will surely elicit a smile, years from now.
5. Bring in a neutral friend: It is quite possible, that neither of you is able to solve the issue, at which time you can bring in a friend who is neutral to the both of you. Talking to this third person will help you get a better perspective.
6. Give her space and time: After a fight, always give time and space to cool off. Research has demonstrated that as a person’s anger increases, their ability to reason decreases. A cool mind is more open to forgiveness and moving on.
7. Talk it out: Try and have a heart-to-heart. This is obvious, but needs to be stated. Let your friend know how much she means to you, and how your life feels enriched by her presence.
Don't leave any stone unturned as there is nobody except your best friend who makes your life happy and happening.
Consider the following tips to sort things out with your best friend:
1. Talk: Irrespective of who did what to whom, do not wait for her to take the first step. Friendships end because no one cared enough to make the first move towards resolution. If she really means that much to you, fix it! If you are at fault, explain your actions without providing justifications. Do not worry about judgment, she’s your best friend after all.
2. Active Listening: While you are prattling on endlessly about your pain and suffering, don’t forget that your best friend has been through the same. Give her an opportunity to speak, at which time your eyes and body language should be focused on her. Active listening is an essential skill to have in all relationships.
3. Apologize: Our egos prevent us from taking responsibility for our actions. Even if you are not the guilty party, it does not hurt to say sorry, especially to your best friend. A heartfelt, genuine apology is a great ice breaker from the anger and resentment that builds up in a fight.
4. Write your feelings down on paper: If you have difficulty expressing your emotions and feelings, jot them down on a piece of paper. You may not be the guilty party, but a letter is a sweet gesture which will always be welcomed by your best friend. This letter will be a keepsake of your friendship,and will surely elicit a smile, years from now.
5. Bring in a neutral friend: It is quite possible, that neither of you is able to solve the issue, at which time you can bring in a friend who is neutral to the both of you. Talking to this third person will help you get a better perspective.
6. Give her space and time: After a fight, always give time and space to cool off. Research has demonstrated that as a person’s anger increases, their ability to reason decreases. A cool mind is more open to forgiveness and moving on.
7. Talk it out: Try and have a heart-to-heart. This is obvious, but needs to be stated. Let your friend know how much she means to you, and how your life feels enriched by her presence.
Don't leave any stone unturned as there is nobody except your best friend who makes your life happy and happening.
